Welcome to my world
Hi, I’m Lotus
I’m a Professional Dominatrix, erotic educator, published author, speaker, facilitator and practitioner of Holistic Feminine Leadership.
But those are really just titles for a body of work that has been evolving for many years.
My work explores power, pleasure, sexuality, embodiment and what happens when we give ourselves permission to meet the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to suppress.
I have always been fascinated by the edges of human experience.
Before my work in sexuality, I studied Outdoor and Environmental Education, majoring in Nature Tourism, and worked in wilderness guiding and outdoor education. Nature has always been one of my greatest teachers. I’m deeply devoted to the Earth and the wildness that exists both around us and within us.
And I love pleasure.
Mountain bike trails and deep soul dives. Luxury retreats and late-night festivals. Incredible food, beautiful spaces, ritual, kink, art, sexuality and experiences that make me feel completely fucking alive.
The aesthetic and the ecstatic.
Over time, these seemingly different parts of my life began weaving themselves together.
My work
My path into sexuality eventually led me into professional domination, where I found a world that allowed me to explore some of the things I had always been fascinated by: psychology, power, desire, taboo, ritual, sensation and surrender.
Today I work professionally as a Dominatrix, creating bespoke experiences that range from playful fetish and BDSM through to deeply psychological explorations of power, vulnerability and surrender.
I’m interested in power from within.
The kind of authority that comes from knowing yourself. Knowing your boundaries. Knowing your desires. Being able to communicate them. Being willing to take up space without needing to diminish somebody else in the process.
That philosophy now runs through everything I create.
I facilitate workshops, temples and immersive experiences exploring kink, consent, conscious sexuality, embodiment and feminine leadership. I’m the founder of Eros Erotic Temples, a published author, and co-host of the Sx Education Stage at SXhibition, where I speak and facilitate conversations around sexuality, pleasure, kink and erotic expression.
Whether I’m on a stage, inside the dungeon, facilitating a room or working intimately with one person, the thread is ultimately the same:
I guide people home — to their bodies, their desires, their power and their sexual sovereignty.
The woman behind the work
I don’t believe sexuality exists separately from the rest of who we are.
Our relationship with pleasure is intertwined with our relationship with our bodies, our boundaries, our shame, our health, our relationships, our environment and our capacity to actually feel alive.
This is why my work has never fit neatly inside one box.
My background spans environmental studies and wilderness guiding, professional domination, conscious sexuality, consent, somatics, embodiment, trauma-informed practice, leadership, shadow work and energy work.
I’m interested in the whole human.
And increasingly, I’m interested in what happens when we stop trying to sanitise ourselves into something socially palatable and instead learn how to hold the full spectrum of who we are.
The light and the dark.
The erotic and the intellectual.
The powerful and the tender.
The sacred and the profane.
My credentials:
- Betty Martin’s Like a Pro Wheel of Consent Facilitator Training
- Conscious Sexuality Practitioner Training with Emmajane Love and Anna Morrigan
-Shadow Work Series Dominatrix Training with Colette Pervette
- Dominatrix Academy with Mistress Mindset
-Reiki Level 1 & 2
-NLP Practitioner Training with Tony Kaye
-Embodied Leadership Training with Emmajane Love
-Trauma Informed Training with Emmajane Love and Anna Morrigan
- Bachelor Degree in Outdoor and Environmental Education - Major in Nature Tourism - Latrobe University
Other mentors and major expanders:
Anaiya Sophia, Katie Rydge, Tony Robbins, Joe Dispenza, Bill Plotkin, Ben Greenfield, John and Missy Butcher, Margo Anand, Mantak Chia, Christopher Wallis & Mistress Malissia.
I guide people home - to their bodies and to their hearts, to reclaim their sexual sovereignty
My Manifesto:
I am a creatrix of beauty, pleasure, connection and transformation.
I walk with reverence for the Earth, the body and the extraordinary intelligence that exists within both.
I believe desire contains information.
I believe pleasure matters.
I believe shame grows in darkness, and there is enormous freedom in bringing loving awareness to the parts of ourselves we have hidden, rejected or denied.
I believe dominance can be deeply embodied without being cruel, femininity can be fierce without becoming hardened, and sexuality can be playful, ridiculous, confronting, sacred, primal and profoundly human all at once.
I stand for women.
I stand for sex workers.
I stand for the Earth.
I stand for people having sovereignty over their own bodies, desires and expression.
My work invites people into the underworld of themselves — into desire, shadow, sensation, power and the places we don't always have permission to explore in ordinary life.
Sometimes it is simply delicious play.
Sometimes it becomes something much deeper.
I have witnessed what can happen when someone feels safe enough to be fully seen in something they have carried shame around for years.
That matters to me.
My work is continually evolving because I am continually evolving.
I’m not interested in presenting myself as someone who has arrived at some final destination of enlightenment. I am a woman living this work, questioning it, studying it, fucking it up sometimes, learning, changing and becoming.
I love the shamed parts of myself into wholeness.
I tend to my wounds with tenderness while continuing to claim more of my power, pleasure and aliveness.
And through my work, I create spaces where others have permission to do the same.
Welcome to my world.
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